5 Ways to Become More Attractive to Women
Attracting women probably doesn’t make sense to you. It doesn’t for most men. Instead, you chase. At the bar, the gym, the office, you’re chasing women for their attention. The female is the prize and must be won with your time, money and effort. But chasing her is a poor investment. You’ll spend way too many resources for the amount of return. It’s for the masses. Not for you.
If you want an amazing women, attract her. Why? Because it’s effortless and it makes you stand out. With attraction, she will want to be with you for you. Nothing else. You don’t need to manipulate or coerce her with dinner, compliments, doing favors, giving gifts, etc. These things have their place, of course, but most men act nice out of need. Attraction is a different approach than most. It is an investment in your character. And it will make the women line up.
1) Learn to Be Comfortable Now
People spend too much time in their heads. They focus on what has happened, could happen, should happen or will happen instead of what is happening. Notice that you can always be comfortable now when you accept what is happening. When you find your attention being pulled into a thought, stop and bring it back. Be here. Right now. Recognize where you are, who you’re with, and what you are wearing. Breathe in… breathe out. See the difference between the comfort of now and what you’re creating in your mind.
2) Absolutely No Resumes
People who feel internally uncertain show off the resume. This is a big mistake. Go back to rule #1 and find your comfort. By trying to impress someone, you actually disgust them. Your accomplishments are for you alone. Parading them to others is a sign of insecurity and a need for external validation. By keeping this information to yourself, you create a bit of mystery. People discover what you’re about instead of being told.
3) Focus on Character Growth
Women are attracted to character. Character is grown out of commitment and choice. It is pretty easy to spot the guys who have it and those that don’t. Look at the principles section in the Heart category. Then, take one quality (assertiveness, charisma, humor, etc) and integrate into your being.
4) Show Respect
Whatever the moment brings, give it your respect. If it rains, respect it. If a girl rejects you, respect her. Showing respect is simple logic. Life and people can choose just like you. They have a right to have opinions and take action. All them this right. The status quo is using his freewill to manipulate outcomes. He tries to coerce a woman to accept him rather than letting her choose freely. Using gifts, dinners, compliments to buy approval.
5) Embrace your Humanity
Error is intrinsically built-in. You can’t escape it. So embrace it. Most men don’t do this. They deny themselves a better future and remain stagnant until their death beds. They settle. Thoreau calls it “leading a life of quiet desperation.” Sound like a fair trade? Please don’t do this. Forgiveness is the simple understanding that you are human. It’s OK to choose and to grow from those choices.
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